In my last letter I could not give you any details about my
plans, which I can do now to some extent. I begin by telling
you about the woman, that what I already suspected has proved
true, that she was already making arrangements for the future,
even before I had decided to leave her. I had to decide
to leave her for the very reason that I was almost sure
then as I am now that I know exactly what her
Now that the decision has been made, I want to carry out my
plan of moving promptly and firmly.
The first measure was to give my landlord notice - that has
already been done.
The second measure concerns my furniture, which would only
be a burden to me, and cause expenses at a time when I do not
know exactly where I shall settle down. It will remain here in
the house in the garret; I made an arrangement with my
landlord about it.
You will ask me if I intend to come back to The Hague? No,
but for instance in half a year, or a year, I shall again have
to come into contact with some painters here when I have made
progress in my work and when I have a lot of studies of the
And then for a studio, I shall probably take a very
comfortable room, or preferably an outbuilding, from this same
landlord, at his own place in Voorburg, not in The Hague; it
will be cheaper than living in town, which I shall not readily
So I am rid of all the extra ballast, and at the same time I
know where to go when I come to a point (of course not now, but
for instance in a year) when a temporary return here would be
advisable. Why? For instance, I could become a member of the
Society of Draughtsmen by that time, which is one of the things
I might desire then and might be able to attain.
You will agree that The Hague is a very remarkable place. It
is in fact the art centre of Holland, and at the same time the
surroundings are very varied and beautiful, so that one can
always work there. And so - though certainly not for the
present, but let's say in a year - there will perhaps be a
reason for a longer or shorter stay here. And through this
arrangement about the furniture, I remain in touch with
somebody who knows me and who, as soon as I ask it, can help me
get a house. So I am a free man, without ballast, and I can
leave when I want. And I can do more now with your 150 francs
than when there were so many demands on me. And as I am for
once a little freer of the cares that were getting too much for
me, I am in a more hopeful mood.
In this way the expenses for the journey are greatly
simplified. The only drawback, shadow, or whatever you want to
call it, is that I myself had hoped the woman would improve in
Drenthe, and now I have misgivings. It is certainly her own
behaviour that decided this action of mine, but if I had been
able to find the means, I should have taken her with me to
Drenthe in a last effort to save her. Well, I had to decide, as
each week's delay took me deeper into the labyrinth, without
additional benefit to her.
If I should take my furniture, half a van to Drenthe would
cost, according to a more detailed estimate by Van Gend &
Loos, something over 25 guilders; pick-up and delivery is
extra, though that would not amount to so very much.
Besides, I should need some cases, which I should have to
buy, and that would be another expense.
It would be convenient to have my things with me, but it is
too expensive, especially if one does not stay in the same
First I should like to have a look at Katwijk, to make a few
marines, and because that is at all events within reach, even
if I should have to put off the journey to Drenthe because of
at the same time, all my thoughts are concentrated
on the work, and I feel a great energy, because now I can do
things which were impossible before.
Dear brother - if you could know my feelings exactly, how I
spent part of myself on the woman, forgetting every other
thing, just concentrating on saving her, if you could feel
exactly my melancholy view of life - which, however, does not
make me indifferent to it, on the contrary, I prefer feeling my
sorrow to forgetting it or becoming indifferent - if you could
feel exactly how I find my serenity in “worship of
sorrow” and not in illusions, the perhaps, even for you,
brother, my inmost soul would be different and more detached
from life than even you can imagine now.
I shall certainly not speak much about the woman any more,
but I shall continue to think of her very often. From the very
first, helping her has been a question of all or nothing. I
could not give her money to live by herself, I had to
take her into my house if I wanted to be of any use to her. And
in my opinion, the right thing would have been to marry her and
take her with me to Drenthe, but I admit that she herself, as
well as the circumstances, make it impossible; she is not nice,
she is not good, but neither am I, and there was a serious
affection just the way we were, notwithstanding everything.
I must set to work, and hope to hear from you soon. Adieu, a
Yours sincerely, Vincent
I add another little word - you ask me how much I need; I
have been thinking it over, and it is impossible for me to say
what I absolutely need; for that would not be little. So
let's see what is within our reach and make that do. Probably
what is within our reach will be below what is “au
fond” necessary, but in life it is already something to
be able to carry out one's plans partially. And I tell you that
I shall be satisfied with what you can spare. Life is cheaper
out there, and I shall be able to economize more than here; and
after a year these economies alone will already have helped me
Once there, I can have colours sent by parcel post, so if
possible, yes, then of course I'll stock up in advance;
but if not, I shall not put off the journey for that
I hope that the past year will prove to have been sound
after all, for I have not neglected my work; on the contrary, I
have corrected a number of weak points. Of course there are
more to be corrected, but these will get their turn now.
What I wrote you in my last letter, that the woman had
immediately broken certain promises, was bad enough, for she
had tried to get a job as servant in a whorehouse, which her
mother had set her on to. The woman herself was soon very sorry
about it, and has given it up, but it was very, very weak of
her to do it just at that moment; but she is like that -
at least up to now - she hasn't the strength to meet such a
proposal with an absolute no.
Well, she forces me to take measures which I had put off
again and again. But on that occasion I saw a kind of crisis
within her, as it were - I hope it has been a “hitherto
but no further.” And it is a fact that she herself
considers our separation something which may have good results.
And because she is too hopelessly close to her mother, these
two must go together, either the wrong way or the right.
Now the plan is that she will live with her mother, and they
will take turns going out as charwomen, and try to earn a
living honestly. That is their intention, and they have already
found a few houses; I have placed some advertisements, and they
go out to look for places daily and are beginning to like
I will go on placing advertisements as long as it is
necessary, and do all those things which can be useful to them.
And if I can do so, I shall pay a few weeks rent and a
loaf a day for them before I go, to give them more time to
carry out that plan well. But I did not yet promise them
that I intend to pay these things for them, because I do not
know whether I shall be able to do so. It will depend on
And for her I decidedly advise a marriage of convenience
with a widower, for instance, but I have told her that in that
case she must be better to him than she was to me.
And that she herself knows quite well in what respects she
failed in her duty toward me, that she should be
sensible this time, and learn from it that I do not
reproach her with it in the least, because I know improvement
or reform does not succeed at once, but goes in what may be
called stages. Therefore, if only she stays at the point
she has reached now, and does not permit herself to slide back,
she need not take her shortcomings to me to heart, nor lose
courage; only she should try to make amends by being better to
And for the time being she fully understands all this, and I
hope to keep it alive. Losing courage and letting things slide
is the foible of both of them, but at the same time they are
patient in the matter of starting anew; the woman especially is
getting this way, and although I know her faults are numerous
and troublesome enough, I also know that au fond there is some
good in her, which makes up for everything, and
therefore I do not despair of the future. For such a one
miséricorde, mercy, should lie in nature itself. It
is something I should wish to believe fully, and I think it
ungodly of myself not to be completely convinced of it and in
addition to be resigned to leaving all the things undone which
it is not in my power to do; however, I am unable to drop
everything I have been at great pains to set right.
Write soon, won't you?
At this time, Vincent was 30 year old
Vincent van Gogh. Letter to Theo van Gogh. Written 6 or 7 September 1883 in The Hague. Translated by Mrs. Johanna van Gogh-Bonger, edited by Robert Harrison, number 320.
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